Ânia Marcos
Ânia Marcos

Emotion Is Just Another Muscle

It’s your first time ever in the gym. You’re super excited to start building some muscle.

You head to the the weight lift area and you grab…

Probably a 5kg weight for each arm and train your biceps? Depends, right?

That’s the whole point. No one in their right mind starts lifting a ton of weight in their first day.

You build muscle over time.

And when you do a jump on the amount of weight you’re lifting, a friend is there by your side and helps you lift it. Just to make sure you don’t harm yourself.

My question is: why are physical and emotional growth seen differently?

For a 5 year old kid, a friend who refuses to play with them for whatever reason, is probably as tough as your boss telling you you’re not doing your job properly when you’ve been giving it your all.

If we relate this to the gym analogy, see the kid as someone who barely started their training comparing to the guy who goes 3x a week for the past year.

Over time you’re strengthening your emotional muscles. And whatever things happen to you in life also strengthens those muscles as well.

And sometimes, life throws us a weight that’s too heavy for us at the time – and we shouldn’t feel ashamed or embarrassed to ask a friend to help us lift it, until we can deal with it by ourselves.

Just because we can’t see it, doesn’t it make it less real.

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger? Maybe, but you don’t want a dislocated shoulder, do you?

Be patient with yourself. Ask for help – and allow others to help out.

Together, weight is relative.


PS: If you haven’t already, check out my blog post on overwhelm and let me know your thoughts!


  1. Carlos Morales - 4 weeks ago

    Very good post i think having a group of people that are like minded and understand the struggles as artist is very valuable. Thanks Ania

    • aniamarcos - 4 weeks ago

      Thank you, Carlos! And amen to that! Like Chris Oatley says al the time, “artists are not meant to work alone” 🙂 And as human beings, we all need friends and a tribe we fit in.

      Glad you enjoy my weekly thoughts <3 Hugs!

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