…it’s all part of the process.
How else are you supposed to know how to do it?
If big is big because we know what small looks like, then doesn’t it make sense that we have to go through multiple failed attempts in order to understand what is correct?
Social media makes it look like everyone has it all figured out. Truth is, almost no one does.
I fail all the time. I fail at home, at work, when on vacation… All the time. And of course I feel bad about it!
But let’s try and see it like this:
Last week I hurt my leg while trying to jump onto a box at the gym. Today I know if I look down instead of up I’m probably going to miss the mark again. So now, I don’t look down.
I’ve been trying to figure out what my next book is going to be about for the past 2 years. I kept on failing. I thought I’d never have an idea worth pursuing. “I’m a failure. I’ll never make it. Who even cares about this?”
Then something magical happened: I let go of guilt. Even if it was just for a brief moment…
…I let myself just relax and think about what was not working. I embraced failure.
The result? This past weekend I had not one, but TWO story ideas I’m happy with.
Failing doesn’t mean you suck. Failing means you’re actually doing something.
Failing is progress. Embrace it and move forward.