Ânia Marcos
Ânia Marcos

Shifting Nervousness Into Excitement (Kick Uncertainty in the Face)

Lately, I haven’t been writing as many blog posts as I would like to. I also had to pause my children’s book for the past two months.

The reason for putting my personal work on hold was simple: I’m currently in the middle of major life changes. I made a conscious decision to leave my previous full-time job to focus on a freelance career instead (whatever that means).

I have never felt so scared before.

Not only was I nervous and had no idea what I was doing with my life (spoiler alert: I still don’t), I had no clue on how to deal with this uncertainty. Stopping everything I had going on to free up space in my brain was the only way I knew how to figure things out.

As I was watching multiple motivational videos and podcasts, I re-encountered this particular talk from Simon Sinek where he explains the difference between being nervous Vs being excited.

To quote Simon, “when you’re nervous your heart races, you visualize the future and your hands get clammy.”

…and when you’re excited you experience the exact same thing.

So, what’s the difference? What could change if I stopped saying I was nervous and told myself I was excited instead?

Excited for the new opportunities, for the connections I can make, for all the great things I can do for myself and for my future?

Excited, not nervous.

What I lack in confidence I try to make up with a fighting spirit. That said, I started reaching out to people via email and put more effort into showing my work to others.

I made a list of all the things I was capable of doing and collected testimonials of how others perceived my work. Reading all the positivity made me excited and little by little I started to believe in myself again.

I stopped losing sleep worrying about all the things I didn’t know or couldn’t do, to focus on preparing for the things I could do.

I’m still amazed at how this little change in my mindset affected the outcome. Even though I’m still figuring things out as I go, I’m no longer afraid about how on earth I’m paying my bills the next month. I have work.

Today I can truly say that I’m excited (not nervous) about what the future holds. Uncertainty isn’t a bad thing, just an opportunity waiting to be taken.

No one has it all figured out. At least I sure don’t.

What are you excited about?

Drop me a line below, I’m excited to read what you think!! 😉

4 Comments

  1. Ashe - 4 months ago

    As usual Ania, this blog post couldn’t come at a better time! I also just recently quit my full-time job that I loved because I bought a house… over 900miles away from where I currently live. It’s a beautiful house and my hope was that I could focus more on the career I see myself having in the future, rather than just working a job. (I loved my job, but it isn’t my dream.)

    So, naturally, those are two very big shifts in my world and so financial nervousness is on the mind. But, I don’t want to be nervous, I want to be excited! This is an opportunity of a lifetime after all. So, thank you for reminding me of this.

    I know you’ll do amazing things with your freelance career Ania!!

    <3 Ashe

    • aniamarcos - 4 months ago

      Hi, Ashe! Thank you so much for your comment, I really appreciate it <3
      Congratulations on taking such a big step! I can't imagine how scary that must have been! I was panicking when I left my previous job, so kudos to you! You got this 😀
      Hug!!!

  2. Kyla Saflor - 4 months ago

    Thank you for sharing, Ânia! I know sometimes we can forget about all the great traits we already have and what makes us unique because we’re constantly surrounded by amazing work due to social media. That we end up comparing ourselves that we don’t know how to do this or that. I’m super super excited and happy for you!

    As for me, I recently attended a workshop with Stephen Silver, which was eye opening and just what I needed to move forward along my journey as a Character Designer. I came out with life learning tools that’ll help me be a better critic of my work. But also made new friends and memories along the way!

    I’m excited for us! 🤗💛

    – Kyla Saflor

    • aniamarcos - 4 months ago

      Hey, Kyla! <3 Always happy to hear from you, thank you! 🙂
      So true, sometimes social media can really get in the way of how we perceive what's 'normal'...
      I'm super excited for you too! Silver is a great teacher, and I can't wait to see where you go with your art!! <3 <3 <3 Hug!

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