Ânia Marcos
Ânia Marcos

Are You Sabotaging Yourself? :: The Biggest Obstacle To Creative Fulfillment

Imagine the World’s worst boss.

Someone who calls over the weekend just to remind you of that thing you didn’t do.

Who keeps disrespecting you, dragging you down and criticizing you.

A boss who says “You know all the awesome artists out there? You’ll never be as good as they are, so don’t even try.”

A person who demands you to stay overtime because the client’s work matters more than any personal project you have.

And who doesn’t care about your health, the amount of sleep you get and even gets mad at you for catching the flu.

Would you like to work for this person?

Then why would you treat yourself like that?

We’re our own worst critic. If we don’t respect ourselves, then we’re only dragging everyone down.

Our work, our relationships, our self-esteem… Everything suffers.

…and no one is happy.

You matter, you are loved and we need you.

Kindness Brings Happiness

It’s true. I find much happiness in being kind to others. Especially when I’m down.

..and I believe that by being kind to others, you’re also practicing kindness for yourself.

When in doubt, be kind.

What can you do today to share the love?

I’m looking forward to hearing your thoughts! Please join the conversation in the comments below 🙂

Let’s all give a little more.



  1. Julia - 3 years ago

    So true Ania. I personally find that boss in myself multiple times a day. It’s really difficult to remember to be kind to yourself.

    Even though we have high standards for ourselves and we want to succeed… The little victories are important too.


    • aniamarcos - 3 years ago

      Thank you for your kind comment, Julia! 😀 Is there any trigger that helps you catch yourself when the mean boss tries to come out?

  2. Rami - 3 years ago

    I love this Ania! <3 Thanks for the wisdom. Looking forward to hear more from you. ^.^

    • aniamarcos - 3 years ago

      Aaaawwww… Thank you, Rami! Your support means a lot ❤️

  3. Natalie - 3 years ago

    Ania! This post is so important for artists to hear and really resonates with me. You are so lovely and you inspire me every day ❤️

    I was a little behind with things and only just watched the latest backstage pass recording. There was so much incredible insight into the hearts and minds of the OA Team. I know I’m relatively new to the community, but I had no idea how much dedication was behind all of the incredible content I enjoy. Thank you and everyone on the team for sharing their struggles. If there’s ever a time when you’re in a bind, I would be glad to help out in any way I can! Here’s to taking better care of ourselves in 2018 ?

    • aniamarcos - 3 years ago

      Thank you, Natalie! You might be new to the OA Community, but you’re family!! I appreciate your words more than I can express 🙂 We love you dearly. HUG!

  4. Pat marconett - 3 years ago

    Hey Ânia. Great post. I was the one in figure drawing class in college angrily scratching out all my drawings! Tried several things including pretending like I had convidence before entering a class. What I finally discovered worked was always listening to music or books or podcast while I work. Just enough to distract my brain from yelling at me. I joke now about needing to drowned out the other voices & still do it do this day. One year I listened to like 100 books. Today I see being very self critical as a huge asset as long as you can keep it in check. You’ll find most successful professionals are the same way.

    • aniamarcos - 3 years ago

      Wonderful insight, Pat! Thank you for sharing 😀 I very much agree that we can use it as an asset as long as we keep it in check. Love how you figured out how to get that to work for you!!

  5. Lizzy Person - 3 years ago

    So true! I only really started to learn this last year, after I graduated and really was my own boss for the first time. I hadn’t realized I’d been sabotaging myself…and how much more productive I could be when I finally started treating myself properly. 🙂

    • Pat marconett - 3 years ago

      Kinda the current research on health& nutrition seems to be tailoring treatments and diets to the individual instead of broad categories. I kinda think the same can be applied to work & learning habits. At least that’s what I’m trying to calibrate too

    • aniamarcos - 3 years ago

      Thank you for sharing, Lizzy! It’s amazing how we don’t even realize it sometimes, right?

      And Pat – good thought! Please keep me posted on your findings, I’d love to know more 😀

  6. John - 3 years ago

    I so needed to re-read this today. Bless you sweet harbinger of happiness!

    • aniamarcos - 3 years ago

      Daaaw! Thanks, John! <3 HUG!

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